That said, some hurdles are more insurmountable than others — and they require sufficient attention. Here, divorce attorneys explain some telltale signs a marriage won’t last a year.
1. There is excessive conflict when planning the wedding
One warning sign of a potentially unstable marriage can appear before the wedding even happens.
„Even as early as the wedding planning phase, one party might want to have an extravagant celebration and be willing to incur debt for it while the other might be content with a small dinner for family and closest friends,“ Kelly A. Frawley, a partner at Kasowitz Benson Torres LLP’s matrimonial and family law department, told INSIDER.
Planning a wedding can be incredibly stressful for everyone involved, so some arguments are inevitably bound to happen during the lead-up to the event. But if the fights are intense, always about the same thing, and reveal vastly differing opinions on what the wedding should entail and cost, it might be worth taking a step back and giving the relationship some extra consideration.
Read more: How to make planning a wedding stress-free
2. You are getting married just for the thrill of it
A common reason for a quick divorce is when people get married just for the sake of having a wedding.
„The excitement of ‚getting married‘ was the reason they got married and then realize they have no similar interests or different life goals,“ Nancy Chemtob, founding partner at Chemtob, Moss, Forman & Beyda LLP., told INSIDER.
So, before you get married, ask yourself you really know your partner and if you really want to spend the rest of your life with them. If the answer to either of those questions is anything less than a resounding „yes,“ it’s probably best to put the brakes on the wedding.
3. You rarely spend time together
One potential sign of an impending divorce? Neither partner is spending all that much time together.
„One of the parties continues to go out with the ‚girls‘ or ‚boys‘ and excludes their new spouse, therein creating conflict and feeling of rejection,“ Chemtob told INSIDER.
Obviously, this doesn’t mean that anyone needs to stop spending time with their friends just because they’ve gotten married. People generally should spend some time without their partners, whether they’re alone or with their friends. But if one partner is spending so much time with other people that it makes their spouse feel isolated, it could be a sign that the relationship isn’t going to work.
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