10 questions you should ask someone before marrying them

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  • Before marrying someone, there are some topics you might want to discuss.
  • Some important questions to ask your partner are in regards to how much debt they have and whether or not they want to have children.
  • It’s also important to ask about your partner’s previous encounters with the law and their sex drive. 

Whether you’re dreaming of getting engaged or have already picked out the floral arrangements for your wedding, the prospect of marriage can leave many people in a happy daze. But, regardless of how long you’ve been with your partner, there could be a few things worth discussing before you exchange vows. 

Here are a few questions you may want to ask your partner before marrying them. 

What kind of debt do you have?

It may not be romantic, but getting a clear picture of your partner’s financial situation can help you to avoid some money-related surprises down the road. 

Does your partner have a lot of student loan debt? Do they have dozens of unpaid credit card bills? How far along are they in paying off their mortgage or car loan?

Even if they seem to have their finances together, debt is fairly common and is worth discussing. Recent data from Experian revealed that the average American has over $6,000 in credit card debt. 

In most cases, you are not liable for debt your partner has accrued before your marriage. But as Yahoo! Finance pointed out, any debt you create on joint accounts after your tie the knot will be both partners‘ legal responsibility.

If you and your partner are looking to make any major purchases or investments as a married couple, pre-existing debt could limit your financial flexibility.

Who do you think should be responsible for keeping the house clean?

You might not mind picking up after your partner now, but one Pew Research poll revealed that 62% of all US adults surveyed considered sharing household chores as very important for the survival of a marriage.

Before getting married, ask your partner about their attitude about divvying up work around the house — you’ll probably want to discuss how you’d both like share basic household responsibilities. 

Do you want kids? If so, when?

Knowing whether or not your partner wants to have children is important when thinking about the future. Whether or not to reproduce can be a potentially relationship-ending issue, so consider having a discussion before planning a wedding. 

„Most things in relationships you can make a compromise around, but this isn’t one of them,“ relationship export Jenny Douglas told HuffPost Australia. „If you are firmly in the position that you don’t want to have children or don’t see yourself as being a parent, that’s something that can be irreconcilable.“

If you’ve established that you both want to have kids, it’s also important to figure out your partner’s timeline for making that happen. If you want to put off procreation for another decade but your partner is already buying baby clothes, that could be an issue.

Read More: 7 subtle signs your relationship is basically over

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